Let's talk about something shallow. (To be honest, I forgot that word and had to google translate it from the chinese word. I cannot believe my chinese is better than my english now?!)
There are four types of guys.
1) The ones who act nice to girls but are actually male chauvinists.
That guy who manages to charm all the girls around him - he does things for a girl when she asks, he saved the damsel in distress, he sacrifices his time to accompany a girl when she needs. He's the kind of guy every guy aspires to be because when a girl needs help, she calls for him. But when you get to know them well, he expects a girl to listen to his word, follow his decisions and never talk back at him or oppose his ideas. To that new girl in class, he's a manly man who looks out for girls. But when you get to know him, you realize he's just an egoistic guy who thinks that guys are better than girls and girls are weak. Whatever the case, he still manages to charm every girl he wants to.
2) The ones who act like male chauvinists but actually really respect girls.
That guy who has may bros around him, and also many girls around him. He doesn't go all out to show people that he's helping a girl out, he doesn't go all out to charm a girl, he doesn't tell a girl that he'll be there when she needs it. He just does. He lends help to whoever needs it, he charms a girl without even trying, and he's there for anyone who needs help - because he genuinely want to be nice but still want to appear as a manly man. He often goes unnoticed by people compared to type #1, but when you really get to know him, you will think he is one of a kind.
3) The ones who objectifies girls explicitly and are male chauvinists.
That guy who always ogles at pretty girls, commenting on their appearance and flirts with them excessively. He's the guy you see at bars with a few of his friends and they're always at the prime location where they can see the whole place. He's the one who goes to clubs and buy drinks for the girls, dances on the dance floor like no tomorrow and try to get into any girls' pants who are willing to let them. The one who boasts about a billion flings and the one who breaks all the girls' hearts. He expects girls to listen to him and follow him around, and he has almost every thing in control at all times - or at least he thinks he does.
4) The ones who are nice to girls explicitly and also respects them.
Then there's that guy who doesn't have a lot of girls around him, nor does he have lots of bros around him. He's known to be the nice guy who will willingly help anyone who needs help, and he doesn't really expect anything back from you. He's always the one who girls go to when they need to rant, the one who stays up late to help out a friend in need, the one who gets abandoned by friends when they find their other half. He doesn't expect anything from girls or anyone and he's just living his life his own way.
I used to think there are different types of guys. But recently, I think they're all the same. They're all just male chauvinists who wants things their way, and they will do anything to get there.
It might just be me with my bad luck with everyone I meet, but turns out all the guys are not who I thought they were. It's making me lose the minimal belief I have that there are nice guys out there, the type #2 and #4 kind of guys. The past 2 months has convinced me otherwise.
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I'm hoping it's just the guys I meet in uni that are like that. I still want to believe that the friends I have back in Dunman High are all nice inside. It's either that or I don't spend enough time with them to know them well enough.
On a much more shallow note, I have not been interested in guys for a very long time hahaha. I'm not coming out of the closet guys, it's just that I don't think I can live with the fact that I like a douchebag or something.
Told that to a friend and she immediately replied saying she's gonna bring me out to meet a food blogger friend of hers. Apparently he's really nice and all but I'm not so sure I want to meet someone now. Especially a food blogger because... honestly I am not interested in food blogging and I can't make myself feel very excited about seeing photographs of food or trying out that new cafe that opened. I mean I probably wouldn't mind trying it out but I don't think I'll be as excited and I don't see any common topics we can start off with. So I might give it a miss and just keep telling her I'm busy...? I'll see how I feel sigh.
Everyone's being a young adult and travelling now and I wish I could too. I wish I was as adventurous and brave, as carefree and YOLO. I think it's time for a change.
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